Every culture in the world provides its own unique conditioning around sexual expression and sexuality. Beneath the layers of what we learned growing up, our

personal experiences, religion, the media, and society's impositions, lies our own innocent and very personal way of being sexual and feeling sexual energy.

In modern-day Western culture, where the pace of life is rapid, full of non-stop projects, tasks, and responsibilities, we tend to hold our breath and curtail our natural self-expression and emotions. In this way we avoid over-stimulation and sensations
which can be overwhelming or distract us from our goals. At the same time, this approach to life can resemble that of wearing blinders to create a singular straight-ahead focus, restricting all peripheral vision. Over time we become numb, disconnecting from
our capabilities for spontaneity, relaxation, and enjoyment.

More often than not we then approach sex from our minds, rather than from our bodies, and we are thinking about how we are supposed to be feeling, what is happening, or analyzing what is not happening, and trying to figure out how to connect with our partners or feel good. Sex becomes strategic and routine rather than an expansive and radiant experience to be felt with all the senses. Also, sex in such a manner creates limitation rather than full self-expression and satisfaction. When this is the case, it is very important to take a look within at what stops us from a healthy relationship to our sexuality. Are we forbidding ourselves from being a certain way? What are our belief systems associated with our bodily functions and mechanisms?

Sex, like anything else in life, can be a meditative and celebratory experience--meditation meaning simply being total and present in the moment, surrendering to
what is occuring in reality, relinquishing allresistance, and celebratory meaning life-affirming and accepting. Finding ways to relax and become centered in our own bodies is very important in order to be open enough for true connectedness with another to
take place. Setting up time to connect with each other and being present to each other's state of mind, emotions, and being, as well as sharing needs wth each other, can lead to a nurturing and satisfying sexual connection.

Take time with yourself to identify what drives your sexuality--what have you learned or inherited growing up, what works for you and what does not, what holds you back, what motivates you,what are your tastes, and find ways to assert yourself and allow yourself to receive what you ask for and truly desire. Sex energy (which does not necessarily mean having to be sexually active on a regular basis, but rather being grounded and in tune with your sexuality, harnessing it for creating a powerful life) is the source of creativity, power, wealth in all senses of the word, and full self-expression.

Our sex energy is the powerhouse to our creativity and uninhibited self-expression, as well as the element that keeps us grounded in reality and makes out life work.

Rohi Custage and Giten Tonkov

** If you find that there are past traumas and concerns getting in the way of your true self-expression and sexuality, or if you would like to learn more about how to become grounded in reality and harness sexual energy for living a powerful and creative life,
we suggest you call us for bioenergetics, breath therapy, or counseling sessions, in which you will be supported to release emotions, behaviors, and thought patterns that no longer serve you, and begin to find a new way of authentic self-expression.

Giten Tonkov and Rohi Custage, Co-Founders Of Energy Of Breath Institute, based in NYC, offer Osho Active Meditation and Breath Therapy workshops, trainings, and retreats, as well as individual sessions. Please log on to www.EnergyOFBreath.com for further information, to find out about upcoming events, order meditation CDs, and to join Rohi and Giten's newsletter.